Wednesday February 12, 2020
Did you know? Approximately 90% of an individual's happiness has to do with their general outlook on life.
One can gain a lot of insight about their own outlook on life by paying attention to self-talk (conversations one has in their head about themselves and the world around them).
Why wouldn’t anyone want to develop a habit of positive self-talk? Positive self-talk uplifts you, increasing confidence, and reduces stress.
What is Positive Self-Talk?
Positive self-talk revolves recognizing the truth in situations and in yourself. A fundamental truth is that we all make mistakes. Expecting perfection in yourself (or anyone else) is unrealistic and leads to disappointment and stress.
When negative events or mistakes happen, positive self-talk can often allow you to discover the optimism, hope, and joy in any given situation big or small.
Did you know? A 2012 study shows even small children can learn to correct negative self-talk.
Positive Self-Talk Benefits?
Positive self-talk can have benefits such as:
- improved life satisfaction
- improved immune function
- reduced pain
- better cardiovascular health
- less stress and distress
How to do it?
Before you can practice positive self-talk, you must first identify negative self-talk. Negative self-talk generally falls into four categories:
- Personalizing. Blaming yourself for everything negative.
- Magnifying. Focusing on the negative aspects of every situation, ignoring anything potentially positive.
- Catastrophizing. Expecting the worst, and not allowing any logic to persuade you otherwise.
- Polarizing. You see the world in black and white or good and bad. There’s no middle ground or grey area for categorizing life events.
Here are examples of positive self-talk:
- I can embrace all that life has to offer today.
- I am in charge of how I feel today.
- I will choose happiness and gratitude today.
- I am special and unique, nobody else in the world is exactly like me.
- I chose to love myself now.
- I will find joy in all situations.
- I have value and purpose in this world.
Don’t compare yourself to others
When constantly comparing yourself to others, you can easily go down the slippery slope of negative self-talk. It’s not wise to compare yourself to others (especially on social media), because you likely don’t know the whole story.
Try this: Think of social media as an advertisement to a new movie. You don’t know the entire plot, the advertiser only shows best part in a 60 sec commercial to entice you to go to the theater. Instead, find gratitude in what you do have, rather than concentrating on what you don’t have. Example: You don’t have the extra car payment because you chose not to purchase a new boat, sports car etc. See? You are very much in control of your life.
Surround yourself with positive people
Of course, everyone will experience a bad day or week even be negative. However, some people may “experience bad” days every day of their lives. If you have some of these people in your life, it may be time to distance yourself. Negative attitudes of people you are acquainted with on a regular basis will have a negative effect on your own overall outlook on life.
Use positive words with….. EVERYONE
If you are negative with interaction with others, you are also very likely to be negative with yourself. Having negative thoughts leads to negative self-talk. Think about how you treat loved ones: Do you constantly find fault in your spouse or partner? Or do you focus on the positives and speak encouraging words to them? Starting a conversation with a negative remark, their response back to you is often not going to be positive. Letting the little things go and showing appreciation for simple actions of kindness can jumpstart a positive atmosphere.
Remember: Positivity breeds positivity, and negativity breeds negativity. Choose positivity for yourself and others.
Confront Your Fears
Bring light to the shadows where your fears hide out. Sit down and create a list of your current known fears.
Fear is often what holds one back from being successful. Ask yourself: what are you afraid of? When confronting your fears, one will often realize that the worst case scenario is not as bad as you think. In fact, the benefits of change may be worth the risk.
Did you know? By getting familiar with your fears it empowers us to realize we have a choice.
Embrace the F-Word “Failure”
Fear of failure holds back many people from ever even trying to succeed. Don’t allow the fear of failure prevent you from traveling the road to success. Some of the greatest success stories in life consist of people who failed multiple times before becoming successful. If they had given up after the first failure,they never would have experienced true success.
Did you know? Milton Hersey’s first three candy companies failed. Failure is an opportunity to learn and embrace the lesson.
Don’t dwell in the past
Everyone has a past. Don’t allow past failures, mistakes, or negative things that have happened control your life in the present. You are in control of how you feel. Focus on this: you are strong enough to move forward and embrace your future in a positive light.
Did you know? There is a reason why the windshield of your vehicle is so big and the rear-view mirror is so small. What’s ahead is more important than what is behind.
Be physically active
There are numerous benefits to being active. Such as increased creativity, reduced anxiety, reduced stress, increased serotonin (happy brain chemicals). All of these factors can help with your ability to practice positive self-talk. Click here for more ways to be active
Find the humor. Laughter can help relieve stress and tension. When you need a boost for positive self-talk, find ways to laugh, such as watching funny animal videos or your favorite comedian. Click here for more reason laughter is nature’s best medicine